The past is a corpse in desperate need of internment. And you need to walk smartly away from it. The demons of times long ago, no longer hold sway.
You need to set yourself and those around you free from it. Move into the present firm in the knowledge that that which was is no longer. Let the hate, the pain, and the angst die with those that are defined by it.
Life is too short to be shackled by that which was done to you. Get busy living! Live among those intent on dwelling in the now! Anything less is a waste of the spirit gifted to you by the divine creator of all...